We have to say to our children, Yes, if you’re African American, the odds of growing up amid crime and gangs are higher. Yes, if you live in a poor neighborhood, you will face challenges that someone in a wealthy suburb does not. But that’s not a reason to get bad grades, that’s not a reason to cut class, that’s not a reason to give up on your education and drop out of school. No one has written your destiny for you. Your destiny is in your hands – and don’t you forget that.

The days of black leadership making excuses are over. Obama is delivering a message that all parents should be delivering to their kids – no matter what the obstacle, it’s your own fault if you make excuses and don’t try.